IS THERE A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN “HAVING A “DESIRE TO WIN” AND BEING “DESPERATE TO WIN”?

NOTE: This applies to all areas of life as related to man.

Before we dig in deep, here is what I have to say…

Of course, there is a difference between having a desire to win and being desperate to win. But that the former is passive and the latter is active.

“How do you mean?” You may ask.

First, let’s take a look at the definition of Desire, Desperate, and Win.

According to Dictionary.com, Desire is said to be “a longing or craving, as for something that brings satisfaction or enjoyment”.

Being desperate, is said to be being “reckless or dangerous because of despite, hopelessness, or urgency.” It is also said that being desperate, is being extreme or excessive.

Win can simply be defined as Victory. But to have a better understanding, a some and concise definition is given below…

Winning means to “succeed in reaching (a place, condition, etc), especially by great effort.

So now combining them, we’ll have that…

Desire to win can be, “a longing or craving to succeed in reaching (a place, condition, etc), especially by a great effort that brings satisfaction or enjoyment”.

Desperate to win can be, “being reckless or dangerous to succeed in reaching (a place, condition, etc), especially by great effort because of despair, hopelessness, and urgency. Also could be…

…going to the extreme or being excessive.

The above explanation is my take on the said topic. But one thing is certain…

Which is…

One leads to the other.

By now, you’d have at least one of these questions going on in your mind.

How does one lead to the other?

Which one leads to the other?

Based on my research on the topic over time, I found out that…

Let’s forget about research, for now, let me tell you a true-life story (my story actually).

The Fear Of Losing Is More Powerful Than The Desire To Win.

Back then in Secondary School, when I was in SS2, I had a desire to use an Android phone. But I was this guy whose parents still struggle to give him transportation fare and money for lunch in school (although I didn’t make this obvious and that became my one little problem).

How on earth do I get to save enough money to get an Android phone? That was the question I kept on asking myself.

Because transport fare and feeding was an issue. And sometimes, I have to go on an empty stomach during school hours and probably trek home.

Senior Secondary School was really a tough period for me, yet, I kept on desiring to own an Android phone. And sometimes I’ll pray to God to send someone my way to just dash me a phone, or money to get the phone.

I kept on wishing for different things to happen so far it’ll provide an avenue to get the phone I had wanted all those while.

But then, all my desires didn’t come to fulfillment. And by this time, most of my friends were already using Android phones. I began to feel oppressed, which in turn led to depression.

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For days, I’ll keep thinking about how to get an Android phone. Because by that time, the big boys were those using those phones. Not like I wanted to have that kind of “big boy” status, but because there was this lady I liked at home, so I wanted to impress her (like I also own an Android phone).

When the phone was not forthcoming, my emotions and feelings started to get the better of me. I then became desperate to use this phone at all cost.

I became desperate to the extent that I now wanted to use any type of phone. So I then began to think of stealing people’s money to save up and get myself one.

Stealing was a part of it and that was what got me my first Android phone.

How then did it happen?

It all started like this…

One fateful day in school, before the second break, I went to a lady friend’s dear to have a little chat with her as we were less busy in class.

We were talking before she brought out a small phone. I enquired of the owner, she said it was given to her by her brother.

Instantly, I made up my mind to steal it from her because at this time, I was so obsessed with owning a phone – any phone at all.

Of course… That same day, I was successful with my little operation which I almost got my friend implicated. At the end of schooling hours on that same day, the phone was found and in two days, the matter died down.

Did I stop there? No, I didn’t. Remember I had a desire to own an Android phone, but now, I was already desperate to use any kind of phone.

I stole again (for the second time), and this time, the phone was for a guy who was then our Class Captain.

For this one, I almost got caught. But I sternly denied all allegations against me even in the presence of some teachers in our Mathematics Staff Room.

Even when our own Mathematics teacher threatened that if I don’t confess, he’ll go diabolical (it might sound unbelievable because I myself couldn’t believe I could deny to that extent), I still vehemently denied it.

And in the end, I was released as it looked like I was telling the truth. I don’t know if he went diabolical eventually, all I knew was…

…till today, no one knew I was the one behind the mask. And this time, at last, it was an Android phone. You could imagine how happy I would be as at then.

At home, I had to come up with a lie to tell my mum as to where I got the phone (this wasn’t so hard at all). I didn’t for once take the phone to school to avoid getting caught.

But in the end, the phone got stolen from me. And then it dawned on me that “things acquired illegitimately, don’t last long no matter how hard we try to protect it.”

And even if it lasts longer, you’ll surely payback and this time might be through your nose.

That brings us to the end of the story.

But don’t go yet, there’s one more thing.

By now, I hope you have gotten the difference between having a Desire To Win and being Desperate To Win.

Having a DESIRE TO WIN, is the backbone of consistency, persistence, and determination to get a particular victory.

But being DESPERATE TO WIN is the backbone of engagement in illegal acts to get the desired result.

I don’t think I need to discern for you, which one is best to do. The choice is YOURS.

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Which One Leads To The Other?

From my story, you should know that first, you have a desire to get that win. If there is no definite plan to fulfill that desire (which I didn’t have), then it leads to desperation.

How Does One Lead To The Other?

I’ll just tell you one beautiful response from one of my WhatsApp contacts which I fell in love with.

“Desire can grow into desperation. It starts with a desire and if not well managed, it grows desperation.

For instance, when you are desirous of a lady, you do everything within your power to woo her – getting her gifts, experience your love for her, and so on.

But if you aren’t careful, you can become desperate. At this point, you can do anything to get her. You can even manipulate her into falling in love with you”

In Conclusion

Having the desire isn’t enough but…

DESIRE + PLAN + PERSISTENCE = RESULT.

PS: There is a difference between WISHING for a thing and being ready to RECEIVE IT. No one is ready for a thing until he believes he can acquire it. The state of mind must be BELIEF, not mere hope or wish.

Thanks for reading.

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